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Showing posts with label contraception. Show all posts
Showing posts with label contraception. Show all posts
Tuesday, March 1, 2016
There is Patriarchy, Libertine Patriarchy, and the Third Way
Read See More. The best discussion of patriarchal systems that I have seen.
The third way is largely invisible, as women take control of their Own Whole Lives* with men as simply partners in whatever they wish to do with their lives sexually, reproductively, and economically. There are enough men around who understand that women are whole humans and respect that to make it work. They may also understand that for many desirable women men must buy into the whole woman to even have a chance at a sexual relationship. Evident especially at high achieving universities where Grad School is a given for both men and women. While the Mrs. is still a fall back for some, it is not the aspiration that got them into the university.
I was an early adopter of the concept and married a woman who from high school made it clear that a professional career was a higher priority than any man. We both had demanding professionally careers, and shared child raising with both of us doing more than half. While professional couples is my social milieu, I have made it a point to notice the woman driven change in other segments of the society. Due to the vicissitudes of preparing for a dual career lifestyle and supporting a professional in a misogynistic profession I have lived in many social strata.
The third way was made possible relatively recently with reliable contraception enabling women to finish whatever training or education they feel is necessary without worries about chastity or pregnancy. At any point they may partner with a man for sex, rent, or companionship but dependence is not part of the package. The gender of the partner is probably less important than the human respect, but heterosexuality is the norm so most of the partners are men at all stages of life. At top universities co-ed living is now the norm. There is even a fraternity at Stanford that shares a co-ed house with two sororities.
Once settled these third way couples make a point of being invisible to their patriarchal neighbors. The only observable difference is both cars leave in the morning. Any children involved may be in either car. On the weekends they may host a griller or tailgate to watch their favorite team, maybe even their kid's team, but frequently only one partner is hosting. The other is "busy."
*Blatantly stolen from the OWL curriculum which teaches boys and girls how to take control of their Own Whole Lives, especially sexually but also relationships, and learning.
Monday, November 26, 2012
Why men are losing
The war on men
By Suzanne Venker
Worth skimming to "Feminism serves men well: they can have sex ... with no responsibilities whatsoever." after that it gets hilarious.
What the author ignores is that all such sex is sterile. Just enjoyable gymnastics, some good exercise, and the prick removes himself from the gene pool. No loss. If the woman wants to contribute to the gene pool there is no problem finding men with good genes to provide them and the prick might find himself living with a baby that is not his. He may leave, but there will be others who will trade sex for living space with or without children. It is that "They want to provide for and protect their families--its in their DNA." The DNA doesn't know or care where the y came from. She may imply that the sex is not sterile, but only she knows for sure.
However, the norm will be that men not threatened by the half the population that is intellectually and economically equal will find equal partners in the procreation business, sharing all the joys and work of bringing up a child in their own image. Neither will be virgins, but adolescent sterile gymnastics will have long since lost their allure.
By Suzanne Venker
Worth skimming to "Feminism serves men well: they can have sex ... with no responsibilities whatsoever." after that it gets hilarious.
What the author ignores is that all such sex is sterile. Just enjoyable gymnastics, some good exercise, and the prick removes himself from the gene pool. No loss. If the woman wants to contribute to the gene pool there is no problem finding men with good genes to provide them and the prick might find himself living with a baby that is not his. He may leave, but there will be others who will trade sex for living space with or without children. It is that "They want to provide for and protect their families--its in their DNA." The DNA doesn't know or care where the y came from. She may imply that the sex is not sterile, but only she knows for sure.
However, the norm will be that men not threatened by the half the population that is intellectually and economically equal will find equal partners in the procreation business, sharing all the joys and work of bringing up a child in their own image. Neither will be virgins, but adolescent sterile gymnastics will have long since lost their allure.
Saturday, February 12, 2011
Nails in the Religious Coffin: Sex, Drugs, and Contraception
Nails in the Religious Coffin: Sex, Drugs, and Contraception - Beliefnet
Controlling sex and drugs is certainly a huge issue for humanity. Which is the Achilles heel of religion. Religion wants the only source of extacy to be God or at least Herm humble representative on earth that little vuvuzela in the fancy dress in the over decorated balcony. Having fun in bed? God will send you to hell! A little too much booze at the party? Better spend a lot of time in the confessional.
The other related nail in the religious coffin is female contraception. If you can't keep them barefoot and pregnant, why on earth would they want to go to church and listen to all that sexist garbage.
Atheism's contribution to these issues is not so much providing answers, as exposing the religious answers as BS and stinking BS at that. Atheists have a variety of social groups that they can choose to provide the moral and ethical guidance on these issues. These days governments are as useless as religion for this purpose.
It will be interesting to see if social media will ultimately provide this function. The churches certainly think so. Every church has its Web2.0 network up. Some universities are trying to fill the gap for non-believers. Music and arts groups are also providing social networks outside the churches. Atheist groups are hopeless, they can't even agree on what an atheist is let alone what moral and ethical socialization should be for an atheist. See the Blag Hag discussion of gender issues at an atheist gathering
My guess is that self selected Facebook groups will emerge as the socializing force for the non-religious.
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Controlling sex and drugs is certainly a huge issue for humanity. Which is the Achilles heel of religion. Religion wants the only source of extacy to be God or at least Herm humble representative on earth that little vuvuzela in the fancy dress in the over decorated balcony. Having fun in bed? God will send you to hell! A little too much booze at the party? Better spend a lot of time in the confessional.
The other related nail in the religious coffin is female contraception. If you can't keep them barefoot and pregnant, why on earth would they want to go to church and listen to all that sexist garbage.
Atheism's contribution to these issues is not so much providing answers, as exposing the religious answers as BS and stinking BS at that. Atheists have a variety of social groups that they can choose to provide the moral and ethical guidance on these issues. These days governments are as useless as religion for this purpose.
It will be interesting to see if social media will ultimately provide this function. The churches certainly think so. Every church has its Web2.0 network up. Some universities are trying to fill the gap for non-believers. Music and arts groups are also providing social networks outside the churches. Atheist groups are hopeless, they can't even agree on what an atheist is let alone what moral and ethical socialization should be for an atheist. See the Blag Hag discussion of gender issues at an atheist gathering
My guess is that self selected Facebook groups will emerge as the socializing force for the non-religious.
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