Yep,
J'Carlin. That's my sense of "prick", too. And I reiterate:
unfortunately, any prick can be a father, too. "Father" is not some
noble vocation, unfortunately, and neither is "parent". In the U.S.
today, the terms seem to be increasingly confused with "unpaid juvie officer". ...
J'Carlin,
you're doing a lot of generalizing there and in my experience, that
sort of thing doesn't work very well. "Humanism" is also a grand phrase
that's devoid of any practical meaning. What does one do if one is a
humanist? What does treat everyone as if they had inherent worth really mean, in practice?
As
my virtual friend Stream Angel well knows, I believe that it's quite
easy to make these great sweeping statements about justice and equality
and human worth and what not. What I think is difficult is to actually
boil those down into concrete practices.
It's
all well and grand to talk about "good parenting", for example, but
what does that really mean in terms of practices? Some people will tell
you a good parent needs to swat their kid's rear end occasionally.
Others are horrified by the very idea and feel no compulsion against
dropping a dime on a parent who'd do that.
Is
it "good parenting", for example, to take a child to a brothel? Be
careful: the question is a hell of a lot more tricky than you might
expect.
I may be generalizing, admittedly a harder row to hoe, but cherry picking specific examples, what we call in Bible arguments prooftexting, is really worthless in any argument. For any shit you sling on the wall I can find different shit to cover it up. The only result is a shitty wall.
The takeaway is that it is all
solved by the principles of humanism (lc h) that is all people are humans. Not men, not women, not children, not
Christians, not Jews, not [whatever.] Simply humans. Not all the same humans
certainly, humans are all different, but if you put "human" before
the [whatever] it really does change the way you think about and look at
people.
If it is a human body builder does it really make a
difference which costume the human is wearing?
If it is a human dancer does it really make a difference
which costume the human is wearing?
If it is a human CEO does it really make a difference which
costume the human is wearing?
If it is a human street person does it really make a difference which
costume the human is wearing?
or for more difficult cases
If it is a human bigot does it really make a difference which -ism the human is wearing?
If it is a human criminal does it really make a difference which suit the human is wearing?
Humanism does not mean noble or even not a prick. But the assumption of inherent worth and dignity does change the way you think even of a prick. Maybe a victim of bad parenting, or the wrong associations while an adolescent, or any of a host of factors. Hesh is still a prick, a crippled human, but a human nonetheless.
Please note. I am saying nothing about what a humanist society will do to protect itself from crippled humans. It must do so. Even humanist societies remove threats, but even threat removal must recognize the dignity and humanness of the threat. The current US paradigm of throwing the threat in a for-profit prison benefits no one as "prisoners" are by definition not human. The Norwegian model of assuming the person temporarily removed from society is not only human but is a potentially good citizen if properly educated in the mores of the society.
Parenting is a different issue. But the same principles apply. A parent, that is a person or persons who chooses to accept a child into their family, also accepts the societal obligation to nurture and socialize the child to become a responsible human adult in the society. The society will provide resources to help, but ultimately it is the responsibility of those who choose to parent to choose the most useful resources to supplement their nurturing guidance. This
is a joint effort of the parents and the society but parents have some choice in the society they wish to associate with, and even within the society they choose may make choices to emphasize certain mores vs others.